Lessen Aging Parents’ Dependence on You – Part II


By Joy Loverde

An older person’s activities will vary based on interests, mobility, resources and physical limitations. Discuss basic parameters with your aging parents to determine what will work for them. Overcoming barriers (such as finding alternative transportation for someone who no longer drives) can help broaden the possibilities.

Be creative! My book, The Complete Eldercare Planner offers a wealth of ideas that will influence your parents to get back in touch with the things they love to do.

To get the conversation started, here are a few questions you can ask your parents:

What is important for you to do right now?

Is there anything new that you would like to learn?

Do you have a skill that you can teach to others?

Have you considered volunteering for a cause that is important to you?

Have you investigated local community classes or senior center activities?

Would you like to pursue any unfulfilled dreams?

Who is alone and lonely that you can visit or call?

Have you contacted everyone you want to see or talk with?

Lucky are the older adults elderly those who have time on their hands. Here are a few activities that might cultivate a new interest and encourage new possibilities for your aging parents to learn and connect:

Drawing and painting classes

Fitness classes for older adults

Compute classes

Handicrafts and sewing


Journal writing

Creative writing


Playing a musical instrument

Inventing something

Singing and dancing in a choir

Senior rights and advocacy groups

Social dancing

Acting and modeling

Caring for animals

Letter-writing for the visually impaired

Telephoning shut-ins

Cooking and baking

Reading to others


Going back to school

Part-time employment

Learning foreign language

Games and puzzles



Collecting stamps and coins

Church activities

Gardening and Caring for House Plants