Recent Posts by Janice

The Elder Care Leap of Faith

When it was time to help my parents with their elder care needs, I didn't hesitate, I jumped in.  After my mother's death, a friend asked my husband and me if we would pay bills for her if she became ill. Being single with no children, our friend had a network of long term friends…
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Watch Out for Caregiver Anger

Dad had briefed me on my most important caregiver duty.  "What ever you do, don't let mom lose the keys to the mail box."  Returning home after a long day at the hospital while my father was having surgery, mom and I were exhausted.  Before I realized what was happening, we were arguing at the…
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Senior Care Help for Aging Veterans

Paying for senior care stretches everyone's budget.  Mary's mom was running out of money.  Her Alzheimer's disease meant that a caregiver stayed with her all day while her son was at work.  This was using up her money at a rate of $4000 per month, not to mention normal living expenses.  Mary heard about a…
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Make a Smooth Senior Care Transition to Medicaid

Your careful planning can make for a smooth transition from your parents paying their care costs to using Medicaid.  Medicaid begins paying long term care costs when your parent has "spent down" his own money to the Medicaid asset caps. It can be hard to face that money is running out.  Caregiving is so time…
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Is Clutter Blocking Your Parent Care Efforts?

I stopped by to tackle my latest parent care responsibility of paying my parents' bills. Was it just my imagination or were things getting messier at my parents' house?  I'm not a neat freak but finding folded paper towels, unpaid bills and an unopened brokerage statement in a stack was upsetting.  In my case, the…
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Three Essential Eldercare Tips for Adult Children

Our visit was pleasant, my father, 86 years old, living independently in of his home, what could be better?  Still as we drove away, I wondered if I was taking my father's wellness for granted.  What might he be holding back with the best of fatherly intentions?  It was time to apply my essential eldercare…
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Guilty Feelings Come with Caregiving

Sometimes I think guilt is the caregivers' natural state.  Parent care is a huge responsibility. It can feel like you are not doing enough.  Sometimes guilt can get out of control. I knew as a caregiver that when I started feeling guilty over disagreements that I had with my mother when I was a teenager…
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Dementia Caregiving and Antipsychotic Drugs

Her caregiving experience reached a new low, when a phone call woke her out of a sound sleep.  "We're having a problem with your dad, can you come right away?"  My friend rushed to her dad's assisted living community in the middle of night.  Her father, with Parkinson's related dementia, was threatening the staff with…
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Caring for a Grieving Parent

The death of a spouse is a huge loss at any age.  Your parent will need your support and your patience on their journey to healing after the death of their partner.  Your efforts to care for your elderly parent can be further complicated by your own grief. Take care of yourself and be aware…
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