Recent Posts by Christy

Coping with Manipulative Parents in Eldercare

by Christy Cuellar-Wentz I was hugely uncomfortable, a week overdue with my first child.  Almost everybody sensed that this was a delicate time in my life, one requiring sensitivity and support.  Everyone except my grandparents, who were calling hourly with assorted problems, demanding to know when my mother could come back and tend to their…
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Amazing Benefits of Therapy Dogs in Eldercare

There is nothing like the companionship of a four legged friend to ease my mind and quiet my soul.  I'm dedicating this post to one of my favorite canines, "Chance," a Great Pyrenees, who left this Earth one year ago.  While Chance was not an official therapy dog, he embodied some of the best qualities…
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Maintaining Sanity During Dementia’s Cognitive Decline

by Christy Cuellar-Wentz I winced.  The woman in the grocery store reached her breaking point as the elderly man in her care grabbed handfuls of gold wrapped chocolates and shoved them in his pocket.  Her words spilled out in a rush.  "Don't you understand that you're not allowed to have those?  They give you diarrhea,…
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Kids Breathe Life into Assisted Living Facilities

by Christy Cuellar-Wentz "Shhhh!"  My Grandma June looked at me fiercely, finger to her lips, ordering me to quiet my little ones.  She seemed to think there was just too much noise and general liveliness going on at her assisted living facility that day.  Never mind that televisions from adjoining rooms were creating a great…
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Gaining Essential Support as a Caregiver: Part Two

by Christy Cuellar-Wentz Being a caregiver is a 24/7 job.  Even if we have support during part of the day, the rest of those hours can really add up.  And unlike sleep deprived new parents, those of us providing eldercare cannot look forward to a bright future that our loved one is moving toward.  Our…
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Gaining Essential Support as a Caregiver: Part One

by Christy Cuellar-Wentz I had a bad habit of turning down offers of help while caring for my elderly grandfather in my home.  I clearly remember people offering to come and sit with him so I could have a little time away, but I somehow felt it was inappropriate for me to accept their offers. …
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Erased from Memory Handling Dementia’s Toll

  by Christy Cuellar-Wentz After decades of enthusiastic greetings and powerful hugs in which my Grandmother  smushed my face into her bosom, I was shocked by the blank look on her face when I walked into her room.  I realized she had no idea who I was.  Worse, I could see that she didn't remember…
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Lumosity Brain Builders for Caregivers and the Elderly

I'm an avid fan of brain improvement programs.  I originally sought brain development resources to rescue my own flagging mental fitness.  As a caregiver for my elderly grandfather and a homeschooling mother of two young children, I had a tendency to run myself ragged.  Continually focusing on other people's needs and running chronically short on…
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What To Do With Early Alzheimer's Symptoms

by Christy Cuellar-Wentz My friend's heart is breaking.  She came to me with tears welling up in her eyes.  "When Dave asked what I would like to do last Saturday, I told him I wanted to have a special picnic outing.  We planned out all the details, choosing his favorite foods, and I started getting…
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Perfect Balance Elusive Goal in Eldercare

by Christy Cuellar-Wentz I used to berate myself for failing to achieve a "perfectly balanced" daily rhythm while caregiving.  Keeping up with the "must do" eldercare activities was a full time job, and I rarely got to the action items on my "should do" lists.  At the end of the day, I highlighted all the…
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