Are you caregiving while living in a different city or state from your family member? It's estimated that 7 million family caregivers live an hour or more away from the person they are caring for.
Long distance caregiving has its own unique set of challenges. Even the simplest task like filling a prescription takes careful planning and coordination. It can be difficult to get a clear picture of your parent's needs.
It's important to get organized before an elder care crisis hits. Here are 3 tips for being a successful long distance caregiver:
- Identify local caregiving resources.
- Know what's really going on with your parent.
- Use visits to look for changes in your parent's well-being.
Tip # 1: Identify local caregiving resources
Use a visit to your parent to connect with local caregiving resources. Most counties produce a local senior care resource guide. Pick up a copy to take home and a copy for your parent.
If you are not visiting soon, you can locate elder care information via the internet. Search official state and city websites using keywords like senior or aging to find local elder care resources.
Tip #2 Know what's really going on with your parent
Regular visits, when you can, are the best way to assess your parent's elder care situation for yourself. Phone calls are a good way of staying in touch with your parent but they can't tell the whole story. Ask a neighbor, family friend or relative to be your elder care eyes and ears and alert you when your parent's needs change. With your parent's permission form a relationship with his/her doctor.
Tip#3 Use visits to look for changes in your parent's well-being
Each visit is an opportunity to complete your own mini elder care evaluation. Watch for:
- Reduced short term memory
- Poor personal hygiene
- Increased clutter including unpaid bills
- Difficulty walking, driving or climbing stairs
- Reduced energy and mood
Any changes should be discussed with your parent and your parent's doctor.
Successful long distance caregiving requires gathering elder care resources before a crisis and keeping in touch with your parent's changing needs through visits and a local connection who keeps you informed about your parent's needs.
Are you a long distance caregiver? Share successful strategies that you have used to help your parent.
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