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]]> By: Bob Tell http://eldercareabcblog.com/men-caring-for-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-203 Bob Tell Sun, 01 Mar 2009 00:04:50 +0000 http://eldercareabcblog.com/?p=691#comment-203 Thanks for your comment, Janice. Many men don't know where to turn for help. They've been told that caregiving is "woman's work," yet find themselves, as men, suddenly responsible for the care of a parent or spouse. There's a feeling of "this wasn't supposed to happen." It's important for them to receive encouragement and understanding that they are not alone and that the task before them is shared by many other men from all walks of life...AND that they are competent to meet the challenge. Bob Tell, Author Dementia Diary, A Caregiver’s Journal http://www.dementia-diary.com http://caregiverchronicle.blogspot.com/ Thanks for your comment, Janice. Many men don’t know where to turn for help. They’ve been told that caregiving is “woman’s work,” yet find themselves, as men, suddenly responsible for the care of a parent or spouse. There’s a feeling of “this wasn’t supposed to happen.” It’s important for them to receive encouragement and understanding that they are not alone and that the task before them is shared by many other men from all walks of life…AND that they are competent to meet the challenge.

Bob Tell, Author
Dementia Diary, A Caregiver’s Journal
http://www.dementia-diary.com
http://caregiverchronicle.blogspot.com/

]]> By: Janice Wallace http://eldercareabcblog.com/men-caring-for-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-195 Janice Wallace Fri, 27 Feb 2009 22:06:26 +0000 http://eldercareabcblog.com/?p=691#comment-195 Bob, What you say is so true about using humor and laughter. There were times with my mother when laughing was the only answer otherwise we would have cried all the time. I agree that a lot of funny things happen. Thanks for being part of the movement to recognize ans support men as caregivers by writing your book. The more stories that caregivers share the more we can break down the barriers that make people feel alone. Janice Bob,
What you say is so true about using humor and laughter. There were times with my mother when laughing was the only answer otherwise we would have cried all the time. I agree that a lot of funny things happen.

Thanks for being part of the movement to recognize ans support men as caregivers by writing your book. The more stories that caregivers share the more we can break down the barriers that make people feel alone.

Janice

]]> By: Bob Tell http://eldercareabcblog.com/men-caring-for-parents/comment-page-1/#comment-187 Bob Tell Thu, 26 Feb 2009 01:17:21 +0000 http://eldercareabcblog.com/?p=691#comment-187 I am an only child, a son and, until she died, a male caregiver to a cognitively impaired widowed mother. The men at a conference at which I spoke about my role begged me to write a book about my experience. Most books about caregiving are written by women. So I did and I'm told that Dementia Diary fills an important niche on the caregiver bookshelf. I am especially concerned about Caregiver burnout, a major issue for those with this awesome responsibility. Don't overlook the role of humor to make things more bearable. Things that made me angry and frustrated when my mother (who had dementia) was alive, in retrospect are filled with funny happenings. My book is filled with anecdotes that will make you roar with laughter. I know that sounds unseemly, but trust me. The many caregivers who read my blog and contact me about my book express gratitude for my permitting the use of humor as a healing balm. Caregivers need all the emotional support they can get. Dementia is a disease that knows no boundaries. It is blind to the categories in which we usually place our fellow human beings. It can occur at the age of 55 or 85. It can happen to Blacks, Whites, Hispanics, Asians, Jews, Christians, Muslims, males and females, rich and poor. It will not spare ex-presidents or ex-prime ministers. It did not spare my mother. Tears are shed by husbands and wives, sons and daughters, brothers and sisters—in fact anyone responsible for the care of a loved one with dementia. Bob Tell, Author Dementia Diary, A Caregiver's Journal http://www.dementia-diary.com http://caregiverchronicle.blogspot.com/ I am an only child, a son and, until she died, a male caregiver to a cognitively impaired widowed mother. The men at a conference at which I spoke about my role begged me to write a book about my experience. Most books about caregiving are written by women. So I did and I’m told that Dementia Diary fills an important niche on the caregiver bookshelf. I am especially concerned about Caregiver burnout, a major issue for those with this awesome responsibility. Don’t overlook the role of humor to make things more bearable. Things that made me angry and frustrated when my mother (who had dementia) was alive, in retrospect are filled with funny happenings. My book is filled with anecdotes that will make you roar with laughter. I know that sounds unseemly, but trust me. The many caregivers who read my blog and contact me about my book express gratitude for my permitting the use of humor as a healing balm. Caregivers need all the emotional support they can get. Dementia is a disease that knows no boundaries. It is blind to the categories in which we usually place our fellow human beings. It can occur at the age of 55 or 85. It can happen to Blacks, Whites, Hispanics, Asians, Jews, Christians, Muslims, males and females, rich and poor. It will not spare ex-presidents or ex-prime ministers. It did not spare my mother. Tears are shed by husbands and wives, sons and daughters, brothers and sisters—in fact anyone responsible for the care of a loved one with dementia.

Bob Tell, Author
Dementia Diary, A Caregiver’s Journal
http://www.dementia-diary.com
http://caregiverchronicle.blogspot.com/

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