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By: Home Care Daily News (December 3rd, 2009) « Home Care Blog

Home Care Daily News (December 3rd, 2009) « Home Care Blog — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 18:07:38 +0000

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By: HuanLiu

HuanLiu — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 11:31:19 +0000

one of the best method for handling aging is to keep your mind cool and chill. Dint get tensed on small things.. carry your life as you wish…..

You can stay ever young……

By: Tonia

Tonia — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 21:14:17 +0000

For Kathy; don’t expect your mom to change but by getting your father some services coming into the home to help, even if they have to pay for them – your mom will benefit from them too and see some ‘benefit’ to keep Dad at home, it also gives you peace of mind in knowing someone is keeping an eye on Dad.

There are many different ideas of types of help you could have somone provide in the home, not all PCA stuff. You’ll also want to keep an assessment of your Dad’s functioning. You can get all of that in the book ‘A Practical Guide for Identifying and Planning Home and Residential Needs of Senior Adults’ at http://www.toniaboterf.com. Book has amazing adaptations and accommodations lists to maintain independence and safety in the home, outside, driving, etc.

For boomers caring for aging parents, you fall into all kinds of issues from the caring process but also your own life challenges which if not resolved quickly, stress you out, tire you, and leave less energy for caring for your aging parents. Life coaching at http://www.thepracticalexpert.com specializes in this, for those times when blogs can’t be enough. Some good articles on the site too.

By: admin

admin — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 11:48:20 +0000

Your Message@Kathy: If your Mom is as bitter as you say, could she do more harm than good if she did care for your Dad? I would suggest that you seek out a Geriatric Care Manager, social worker or possibly their family doctor who might help get some counseling for the situation so you can assure that your dad is well cared for.

By: Kathy

Kathy — Tue, 29 Sep 2009 00:27:03 +0000

I am an only child at 58. My parents are in their 80′s. My father has always taken care of my mother, provided for her; she has never had to work. Now, he has been diagnosed with the beginnings of Alzheimer’s, and she wants no part of caring for him. She is self-centered, bitter and hateful and wants to put him in a home although, he is still in good shape, except for short term memory loss. I am at my wit’s end trying to deal and reason with her. They live in a town that is 50 miles away, so I don’t have easy access. Any suggestions?

By: admin

admin — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 14:48:44 +0000

Dear Carol,

I’m no expert, but I would consult with a minister, social worker or maybe a geriatric care manager. At the very least, you can only do the best you can, but you are not obliged to be trampled on in the process. Saying no can be very difficult, but I hope you can turn to a family doctor or friend to discuss the situation. Family dynamics can be challenging enough to face, but add endless hours of caregiving for those who don’t want to cooperate may require some outside help to untangle the problems.

By: carol

carol — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 15:46:57 +0000

i have been caring for my aging mother plus my disabled brother for about 4 years on and off. i am so stressed out with both of them by their stubborness. i have complete caregivers burnout and have made the decision that i have done all i can. they both accuse me of abuse and do what ever they can to get their way which is not take their medicine, continuing to be in and out of the hospital, refusing to let me install safety features in the home. any suggestions. my mother has now turned my daughters against me. they say just move and they will take care of them but they have their on jobs and family.

By: Annie Eddey

Annie Eddey — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 14:57:08 +0000

http://gwbr.easterseals.com/site/DocServer/The_Beacon_smaller_8_by_11_paper.pdf?docID=113843

This is a great article on Easter Seals Adult Day Care in an inter-generational setting. Adult Day Care is the relatively unkown option that more families should consider ebcause it can less costly and less emotionally taxing than traditional routes od care.