Caregiver Stress – 6 Tips to Avoid Burning Out


By Martin R. Sabel

Taking care of an elderly parent can be a Jekyll and Hyde experience for family caregivers.

On the one hand providing care to an aging parent can be very rewarding. It brings the caregiver adult child and their parent closer together. On the other hand, increasing responsibilities ramp up caregiver stress and heightens tension within the family. Anxiety and worry increase when the caregiver is maintaining a job, caring for his or her own children, leads an active social life, and must travel to care for the elderly relative.

The tasks of caregiving - running errands, cooking, cleaning, home maintenance, taking your mom or dad to doctors - appointments often exacts both an emotional and physical toll on the caregiver. In fact the pressures of caregiving are so great that 58% of caregivers show symptoms of clinical depression.

Pay attention to how you are feeling. To be an effective caregiver to your aging parent means staying alert to the warning signs of excess stress. Some of the common signs of caregiver stress include:

  • Feelings of sadness
  • Moodiness
  • Excessive crying
  • Low energy
  • Feeling isolate
  • Difficulty sleeping
  • Over and under eating
  • Withdrawal from family and/or friends
  • Excessive wait gain or loss
  • Anger towards the care recipient or other family members

These signs are leading indicators of depression. Depression impacts not only your ability to care for someone else, it harms your mental and physical health, too. If you feel you need more help, you're not alone. According to a study by Home Instead, the national in-home, elderly companionship and home care company, three out of every ten family caregivers agree they could use more help.

Six Tips That Manage Stress and Avoid Caregiver Burnout

  1. Hire professional, non-medical caregiving assistance to give you important relief from the daily demands on you.
  2. Ask your family and friends to help. It's less expensive than hiring someone and you know the qualify of care your parent will get.
  3. Get informed about your elderly parents condition. Contact disease specific support groups. They offer a wealth of information to help you understand what is happening to your loved one and what to expect in the future. Most have active caregiver support groups that can help you better cope with increasing stress.
  4. Get your loved one assessed. A geriatric care manager can provide an accurate needs assessment of your loved one. Doing so extends your caregiving abilities, can conserve family resources, and often helps prevent the need of a nursing home.
  5. Learn stress-management exercises such as yoga or tai-chi. The exercise is good for your overall health and the emphasis on inner balance and relaxation is good for your mental well-being.
  6. Take a break. Caring for an elderly parent is a job. Getting away from the daily grind allows you to recharge yourself. Make arrangements to take a few days off and arrange for help with family and friends, volunteers from church or professional caregivers.

Caregiver burnout is avoidable. To manage caregiver stress requires proactively taking care of yourself while taking care of your aging parent.

With the right information, you can reduce caregiver stress, keep your life in balance, save money and get better care for your elderly parents. To help you reduce the anxiety of caring for an elderly parent, I invite you to instantly access my FREE Weekly Eldercare Advisor. You'll discover both practical caregiving strategies and important resources for taking care of elderly parents without bankrupting yourself emotionally or financially.

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  2. I am fortunate that my biggest challenge isn't the financial aspect of their care as their retirement was outstanding. My problem is the guilt from attempting to take care of myself and avoid the calculated verbal abuse from an obsessive compulsive perfectionistic Mother who has severe health problems.
  3. I value and appreciate those caregivers for being patient in taking care of the elderly, however, you also need to rest and should take care of your own body too.
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  5. Your MessageI am now walking this road. My mother broke her knee. She is 87. My father is 92. He is extremely difficult. He was always badtempered, now he is more so. He is verbally abusive to my mother. He is now exhibiting those behaviors to my. I have a develomental disabled sister who lives with them. She tries very hard to be helpful. My father has little patience with her. For the past 2 weeks I have been sleeping on the couch in my parents house so that I can get my mother up to the bathroom and be there if she falls. My husband helps by taking my father to the dr's while I am taking care of my mother. I worry about negelecting my husband and daughter. It would not be so hard if my father were a more kind person. He also has skin cancer, I think Merkel. It is being biopsied now. He is fortting things and is confused easiely. My mother is denying this. I make sure I exercise, nap and get out alone. It is hard, but it is life. They would do the same for me.

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