Comments on: Go Away, Closer! http://eldercareabcblog.com/go-away-closer/ Created by caregivers for caregivers Sat, 31 Jul 2010 14:55:42 -0600 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Tweets that mention Go Away, Closer! | Elder Care ABC -- Topsy.com http://eldercareabcblog.com/go-away-closer/comment-page-1/#comment-2348 Tweets that mention Go Away, Closer! | Elder Care ABC -- Topsy.com Wed, 21 Oct 2009 03:43:22 +0000 http://eldercareabcblog.com/?p=3422#comment-2348 [...] This post was mentioned on Twitter by Mike Gamble and steve Joyce, elder care. elder care said: #eldercare Go Away Closer | Elder Care ABC http://ow.ly/15W2HE [...] [...] This post was mentioned on Twitter by Mike Gamble and steve Joyce, elder care. elder care said: #eldercare Go Away Closer | Elder Care ABC http://ow.ly/15W2HE [...]

]]> By: Peter http://eldercareabcblog.com/go-away-closer/comment-page-1/#comment-2347 Peter Tue, 20 Oct 2009 18:29:54 +0000 http://eldercareabcblog.com/?p=3422#comment-2347 Hmm... I read blogs on a similar topic, but i never visited your blog. I added it to favorites and i'll be your constant reader. Hmm… I read blogs on a similar topic, but i never visited your blog. I added it to favorites and i’ll be your constant reader.

]]> By: Barbara H. http://eldercareabcblog.com/go-away-closer/comment-page-1/#comment-2346 Barbara H. Tue, 20 Oct 2009 17:55:35 +0000 http://eldercareabcblog.com/?p=3422#comment-2346 With my mother-in-law, it seems to be a matter of thinking she is still as fully capable as she was and still looking at her kids and their wives as kids rather than as responsible, mature adults. This comes through in comments she makes (things to watch out for and be careful of) as well as in her not wanting to accept help (and always making comments when she does along the lines of, "You sure didn't know when you married my son that you were signing up for this, did you?") I think part of that is embarrassment at needing help in the first place. Another reason she doesn't want to accept help is that she doesn't want to do anything different. Two things that greatly improved her life that she appreciates now are new hearing aids and a walker, but she resisted both at first and said she didn't need them and was doing just fine without them. With my mother-in-law, it seems to be a matter of thinking she is still as fully capable as she was and still looking at her kids and their wives as kids rather than as responsible, mature adults. This comes through in comments she makes (things to watch out for and be careful of) as well as in her not wanting to accept help (and always making comments when she does along the lines of, “You sure didn’t know when you married my son that you were signing up for this, did you?”) I think part of that is embarrassment at needing help in the first place.

Another reason she doesn’t want to accept help is that she doesn’t want to do anything different. Two things that greatly improved her life that she appreciates now are new hearing aids and a walker, but she resisted both at first and said she didn’t need them and was doing just fine without them.

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